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"That was the best wedding I've ever been to"
- member of the congregation after a Mama Tokus ceremony
I'm an ordained priest in the Church of the Latter Day Dude, and I can do YOU a Dudeist wedding
Let’s have a no-obligation natter to see if our marriage is gonna work…
What’s a Dudeist wedding?
Allow me to explain what an alternative, non-normal, Dudeist wedding is in this 1-minute vid.
Or download my 2-page Dudeist Wedding document here to give yourself a flavour and share around.
Ring-a-ding-ding!
I ADORE presiding over a beautiful ceremony - and I’ll take your ideas, my ideas and we’ll make this wonderful thing together, with sensitivity, levity, laughter and plenty of LUUUURVE.
Maritally blissed
If you want an out-of-the-ordinary wedding, I'm ya gal!
You’ll get a fun-yet-sincere ceremony that you and your guests will never forget - for all the RIGHT reasons.
Sure, Mama weddings aren't for shrinking violets. But if you want an unusual and funny Mama-matrimony ritual, just email me and say I do!
How does a Mama wedding go?
The ceremonies I preside over use warmth, participation and music to create a fun wedding that still includes sincerity and L.O.V.E.
I'll work with you to develop a ceremony that's totally individual to you, incorporating your ideas to ensure you have an incredible, unforgettable wedding.
CHECK MY PACKAGES!
The Dude Abides - Signature
Three pre-ceremony planning meetings
Fully bespoke, personalised ceremony creation
1 x wedding rehearsal attendance
Coordination with venue and nearly-weds’ plans on the day
Delivery of a unique, memorable and participatory ceremony with Mama Tokus flair and style
£1,000
The Full Tokus - Premium
Everything in Signature PLUS:
A live afternoon or evening musical performance by the Mama Tokus Trio, performing fun & danceable swing, jazz, blues, gospel tunes
MC duties during the special day, helping in gathering the crowd, announcements and helping to prepare for the speeches
£1,700
The Whole She-bang - Ultimate
Everything in Signature & Premium PLUS:
A personalised song or poem written for the couple and performed/sung during the ceremony
The artworking & A3 printing of the song/poem’s lyrics on high-quality fine art paper as a souvenir of the ceremony
Live performance by Mama’s extended band - with a drummer, sax and/or guitarist and/or backing vocalists (up to 6 more people at £200 each)
£2,100+
Extra bits
Use of Mama Tokus PA & mics to amplify the ceremony, if required is £100.
NB: Travel expenses are not included in the above prices and we’ll need to discuss these when we meet
Love & laughter
"You had the congregation, of all ages and backgrounds, rolling in the aisles with joy while still delivering all the right sentiments at all the right places.
“There was a lot of love and laughter in the room which set the tone for the whole day, just brilliant!”
Pro production ethic
"There was never any doubt we were in professional, competent hands"
Humour & poignancy
"We wanted a personal ceremony mixing humour and poignant moments, a tall order for most, but Katie pulled it off with gracious, quick-witted aplomb.
"She reacted spontaneously on several occasions when faced with challenging toddler hecklers!"
I’m a certified Dude. Fact.
I'm a Dudeist Priestess!
I joined the church established around The Dude from The Big Lebowski - and that means I can conduct legal weddings in some states of the USA!
I haven't done any of those, but if you sort the official stuff, I'll work with you on a funny, heartfelt and utterly memorable marriage ceremony.
Want a wacky wedding?
Loved, loved, LOVED marrying Pete & Bev at their glorious steampunk ceremony.
Who wants all that white dress stuff anyway?
I'm friendly AND I'm LGBTQIA+ friendly, yeah?
YEAH!
“What a wonderful ceremony you gave...it was fantastic & you managed so successfully to keep it informal, child-friendly & combined magic with dignity & allowed so much love to infuse the occasion”
- a happy grandparent after a Mama Tokus naming ceremony
Frequently Asked Questions
What's a Dudeist wedding then?
It's when the wedding celebrant is a member of The Church of the Latter-Day Dude and presides over an 'alternative' wedding ceremony. Dudeist weddings aren't legal in the UK, but they're perfect if you want an alternative ceremony after you've been to the register office to do the legal stuff.
What is Dudeism?
The Big Lebowski - ‘the founding text’ of the belief-system known as Dudeism - saw the arrival on Earth of The Dude - a bearded man in sandals who came to share the benefits of, er, relaxation, gentle enjoyment with pals, comfy leisurewear and rug-appreciation.
Brought to life by actor Jeff Bridges, The Dude is the main character in the film (made by the Coen Brothers), around which all of the movie’s events circulate.
Now a comic Church of the Latter-Day Dude has built up around The Dude, proclaiming: “Come join the slowest-growing religion in the world…an ancient philosophy that preaches non-preachiness, practices as little as possible, and above all, uh…lost my train of thought there.”
“Anyway, if you’d like to find peace on earth and goodwill, man, we’ll help you get started. Right after a little nap”.
The world now features 800,000 Dudeist priests, of which I am one!
How did Mama Tokus get into Dudeism?
My Dudeist celebrancy began when a friend asked me to create and officiate at a DIY ceremony after the register office official marriage. Together, we created a beautiful, musical, fun & funny ceremony with moments of tenderness and sincerity. There wasn't a dry eye in the house.
After that, I got asked to officiate more and more, and it's become a career path I'm skipping along. Well. Dawdling really.
I AM a Dudeist, after all.
Who creates the wedding ceremony?
We do!
I've got a wedding framework to begin with, then we'll work together, during our three meetings before the Big Day, to craft a ceremony that's totally personal to you. We'll weave in your ideas, ideas from and about friends and family and we'll incorporate the people you'd like to participate too.
We'll create a ceremony that fits exactly with YOU. If you like big laughs, so be it. If you want to dial up the romance, that too.
Together, we'll craft a ceremony that YOU'RE happy and confident with, packed with love, light, sincerity, warmth and joy.
What exactly happens at a Mama Tokus wedding?
My wedding ceremonies are fun'n'funky yet sincere and love-filled.
I work with each of the nearly-weds to co-create a wonderfully memorable and beautiful union, totally unique to each couple and full of love (with plenty of giggles mixed in).
Yet you will recognise familiar wedding elements (depending on which bits you choose to include). You might have an aisle to walk down, 'lessons' read by friends and family, a 'sermon', your vows, music & singing.
I'm a soul and gospel gal, so you'll be getting some call & answer moments and 'congregation-participation' in a Mama Tokus Dudeist wedding.
Can I get a witness?! Hallelujah!
Is it all comedy?
Nope - there's a lot of love and sincerity in a Mama Tokus Dudeist wedding as well as plenty of giggles.
A big part of a Mama Tokus Dudeist wedding IS the laughter and smiles, for sure, and if you're not up for that, then I'm probably not the celebrant you want.
However, I make space for the beautiful, the poignant, the tender and the sincere in my ceremonies.
There have been many sensitive moments in my wedding ceremonies - which only serves to increase the joy!
Are Mama Tokus weddings legal?
Not in the UK, although some states in America DO recognise Dudeist weddings as legal!
My weddings are perfect if you want to go off and do the legal stuff at a register office, then have a ceremony in front of all your pals and family elsewhere. They may not be legal, but they are WAAAAAY more interesting than the register office...
What are my qualifications to marry you?
I carry a Dude Card. Scroll up. Need I say more?
What do I wear?
That depends on what YOU are wearing. I'll work to your plan, whilst maintaining some Mama style. Let's talk. I've got a few outfits, although I NEVER want to upstage the Bride...
Do I do any other ceremonies?
I've done vows renewals and even a baby-naming ceremony, so I'm open to those too.
Do I do funerals?
A surprising amount of people ask me this, and I always demur. I know what I'm best at, and it's weddings. Also...if I did your funeral, how are you going to pay me at the end?
Do I sing in and/or after the ceremony?
I can do, if that's something you'd like. I'm a vocalist specialising in jazz, blues and gospel sounds, so singing comes naturally to me.
We could weave in some vocals into the ceremony or I could perform (with a band) after the nuptuals. Let's chat!
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